Mildred Shafer

Obituary of Mildred Shafer

~~Shafer, Mildred Wieder SLINGERLANDS Mildred Wieder Shafer (Kosches) passed away on May 2, 2017, in the 102nd year of her life. Mildred (Malka) was born in the Bronx, which at the time was home to farms, blacksmith shops and dairies; horse drawn carts filled the streets. Mildred remembered seeing horses drop in the street from old age and overwork, sights which frightened her. Mildred carried milk home from the local dairy in a blue enamel bucket, which the dairyman filled by dipping it into a large barrel of milk. She was afraid she would spill some milk on the way home, especially when the neighborhood boys would swing the bucket to taunt her. She spent the third grade in a one-room wooden school house, which dated back to the 1800's and was heated by a wood stove. To combat the cold, both the teacher and students wore coats and hats all day. The ink froze in the inkwells often, so the children had to crack the ice in order to use the ink. There was a two-hole privy outside the school. Mildred was predeceased by her parents, Benjamin and Sophie Kosches; her sisters, Ruth, Nancy and Helen; and her husbands, Max Wieder and Harry Shafer. She is survived by her daughters, Susan Rose of Albany and Karen Yellin (late Ira) of New Jersey; her grandsons, Michael Avitzur (wife, Heather Norman), Marc and Jeffrey Yellin; and her great-grandson, Benjamin, in whom she delighted. Mildred is also survived by her stepson, Dr. Ronald Shafer (late wife, Ellen), whom she loved as a son; seven step-grandchildren and eight step-great-grandchildren. She is also survived by her loving nephew, Arthur Moin, his wife, Ilene and loving nieces, Carol and Roslyn and nephew, Carl and their children and grandchildren. Mildred was a talented woman who taught herself needlework and created intricate tapestries, blankets, pillows and rugs. She took great pride in decorating her home. She set out to excel in whatever she did. Mildred survived great tragedy in her life but overcame it to live to enjoy her growing family. She fought for life to the very end with strength. Mildred showed musical aptitude at an early age, but was unable to continue her piano lessons when her parents could no longer afford them. Mildred was first widowed as a young woman, and with no preparation, successfully took over each of her husbands' businesses after their deaths. She was an excellent legal secretary, and always held a good job during the Depression. In her later years, she worked for the state as a personnel director, while also managing and apartment building in the evenings and weekends. The family wishes to thank the staff of the Eddy Village Green at Beverwyck for the kindness and compassion shown to them and to Mildred during her stay there. Your kindness will always be remembered


. Services for Mildred will be private and held in New Jersey. Donations may be made to the Northeastern Association for the Blind, 301 Washington Ave., Albany, NY 12206, or to a charity of your choice